In the movie "The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio" (2005) a mother of 10 children wins a contest to save the family home. Before the prize came, she took care of herself and her children by making alternate plans and preparations. It was NOT what she wanted to do, but it also did not stop the prize from manifesting. Being prepared for all possibilities helps relieve stress during crisis and transformation.
When you attempt to "force" things in a certain direction by saying "no" to what you do not want, it brings on the unwanted thing faster.
Does your experience confirm this Universal Law?
Do what you must to take care of yourSelf in the midst of the Contrasting Conditions created by your fear-based beliefs.
Let the Conditions give you insight, awareness, and clarity. Then Focus your Heart on Healing the fear-based beliefs and ACTIVATING the Love-based ones.